Saturday, October 17, 2015

Plant Divorce

Never been a big fan of plants.
Growing them that is.
Love to have them near me. Smell them. Watch them grow and all. But left to my devices? It ain't too pretty. So plants and I have agreed to go our separate ways. Irreconcilable differences, you might say. It was a amiable divorce. Maybe the final straw occurred when I got a new room some years back with a big window opened to the courtyard. Most years about this time, we'd bring plants off the deck, and Elenka would take them to her classroom with plenty of sunlight. This particular year, I told her I'd take some of the pressure off her and bring some to my room. I brought in about seven or so. They looked to be shaking. Were they nervous about something? And the story goes... Too much water? Too dry? Too warm sitting on the heater? Over abundance of strong sun through the glass? Anyway, by February they had all pretty much met their demise.
My heart was in the right place.
But I guess my green thumb was left behind.
In my garden, planting is no issue.
It's the tending and upkeep that lets me down at times.
Bugs!
Blight.
As for our deck garden, I'll help get the plants from the deck to the porch.
That's about the extent of my 'fall planting'.
Anything else might be hazardous to plant life.
We've gone our separate ways. 

118 comments:

  1. Such a sad story. It happens to the best of couples.

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  2. Same here. You might say I'm into "organic" gardening. Whatever grows naturally on its own is what I raise.

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  3. Been there, done that... I'll try again, maybe...

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  4. I'm right there with you on this subject. Plants and I have a true love/hate relationship. I love them, they hate me.

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  5. About the only plant that I could reasonably take care of without a problem would be a cactus!

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  6. Well, at least you tried and now you now another of your limitations. That's one reason I gave up trying. :)

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  7. The cold hit my outside planters last night but I had already brought in the house plants a week ago! I'm not liking this weather at all.

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  8. So sad, but I understand. I "used to" have plenty of pretty house plants, but now that we are away for weeks at a time, I can't be here to "love and talk" with them. So, I no longer even try to have house plants. Sad, for sure. Whenever retirement comes, perhaps I'll reconsider.

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  9. i don't flower garden. the few plants i keep come back every year. i have a couple of plants inside - two are almost 30 yrs old and i can't seem to kill them.

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  10. I think you're in need of some fall-winter Henry Mitchell reading. He was from your neck of the woods, and wonderful writer, and just might change your mind. Here's an A-link: http://www.amazon.com/Henry-Mitchell-Gardening/dp/0395957672

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  11. I think you're in need of some fall-winter Henry Mitchell reading. He was from your neck of the woods, and wonderful writer, and just might change your mind. Here's an A-link: http://www.amazon.com/Henry-Mitchell-Gardening/dp/0395957672

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  12. It is difficult to keep 'em alive when you have to bring them in to protect them from the weather. I've done the same thing. Now, I have no where to grow anything to be responsible for, other than one African violent given to me by the Blue Diamond staff after my hysterectomy in late April. I haven't killed it--yet. About your HATE for each team in the baseball series and your perverse enjoyment of the games, I'm intrigued about how and when the enjoyment pours over you. Clapping at everyone's strike out? Laughing when someone catches a line drive or a fly ball? I'll bet you've got it down to a science.

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  13. I like green growing things but at least over the years I've learned that I get along better with some more than others, usually through benign murder. The survivors and I engage in a happy standoff.

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  14. You and I are very similar in regards to potted plants. Don't let me take care of them if you want them to live.

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  15. RIP, birdman... Thanks for all the lovely photos. You will be missed. ❤️

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  16. Devasted to wake up this morning and not see your new post. With my sincerest regards to Elenka and family, and best of wishes. I will surely miss you. I wasn't too sure I could miss you more after you retired. The best teacher I knew, you were a big inspiration to me, and especially my writing. An incredible man gone too soon. Rest In Peace "Mr. Quinny" Should be missed by so many.

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  17. Just think, all those pests you contended within the summer are smiling because you ave given them warmth.

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    1. Today I prefer a wild field to a flowering garden but of course living in an apartment now I have neither except three potted plants on my patio. That is enough for me now. You will grow into whatever gardening plan you want and it will be wonderful. Your photo is stunning -- barbara

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  18. I'm confused, has something happened to Birdman? I'm devastated if it has.

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  19. I used to have a big garden and loved all my plants but now my gardening space is miniscule, and really, I don't mind.

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  20. The recent comments are making me think that something very bad has happened to our good blog friend, Birdman. I don't want to think that it is true. I'm going to think positive thoughts, Birdman. See your post tomorrow, buddy.

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  21. I have been reading these recent comments, and I am here to confirm the news. Birdman has recently passed away. Yes, it's very sad. I do not know wether to reveal his identity, as in the past he has wished to keep it a secret. I do know that it was very unexpected, and he had a heart attack yesterday. That is why there was no post.

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  22. growing up my mom had tons of plants in the house...remember those spider plants you'd hang in a macrame holder (my mom also made tons of those macrame plant holders in her macrame making days of the 70's haha)...funny though, i can't remember that last time i purchased an indoor plant...hmmm

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  23. Aw, this is terrible news. Birdman, we were going to meet soon in Florida! Elenka, I'm so sorry. It sounds as though you had a great relationship for many years. Remember the good times and know that there will be many people holding you in their hearts during this time of sorrow! Peace be with you!

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  24. I found out the heartbreaking news yesterday. I knew something wasn't right when you didn't post...but R.I.P. Birdman. You were the best teacher I've ever had. You were always there for me, and that's why we became so close. If it wasn't for you I would've stopped writing...but you inspired me to keep going. You were loved by so many. You will forever be widely remembered, loved, missed, and respected as you should be. I know you're making everyone up there happy just like you did here. Elenka and family: my deepest sympathies and know it was an honor to everyone who's life he touched in anyway.

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  25. I found out the heartbreaking news yesterday. I knew something wasn't right when you didn't post...but R.I.P. Birdman. You were the best teacher I've ever had. You were always there for me, and that's why we became so close. If it wasn't for you I would've stopped writing...but you inspired me to keep going. You were loved by so many. You will forever be widely remembered, loved, missed, and respected as you should be. I know you're making everyone up there happy just like you did here. Elenka and family: my deepest sympathies and know it was an honor to everyone who's life he touched in anyway.

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  26. A heavy heart, you will be missed.

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  27. M... I will miss you (the man, the teacher, my colleague and my friend) and your zest for life (the great music that started so many of our days, your funny stories, these beautiful photos on your beloved blog, and most of all the sound of your laughter.) While it has not been the same around here since you retired, it is unreal to me - right now - to think that you are gone. It has been a shock to the system. You were one in a million and I feel fortunate to have been among those who had the privilege to call you my friend. My deepest sympathies go out to E, J, D&M, and your sisters.... You are all in my thoughts. Rest in peace, M.
    Love, ....J

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  28. So sorry to hear this very sad news Elenka, reading Birdman's post each day was a joy, we will all miss him terribly. Sending you my deepest sympathy and many hugs from Perth.

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  29. I am so, so sorry to hear the sad news. I always hoped I'd have an opportunity to meet the famous and witty Birdman one day. Elenka, I'm sending love and affection your way in this time of sorrow. His total love for you shone through every time he typed your name. He will be missed by so many people all over the world.

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  30. OH DEAR! Look what happens when you don't want to take care of your houseplants. So sad. Really sad.

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  31. Rest in peace, Birdman. Elenka, my deepest condolences to you and the family.

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  32. Elenka, this is such a horrible thing and I send you so many good thoughts. You and Birdman had such a wonderful relationship that always showed in his posts about your times together. He is going to be missed by all his blog friends who looked forward to his stories and his funny comments each day. I always got a great kick out of his posts! Many hugs to you and your family.

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  33. oh my gosh, i did not know this until right now...i will miss birdman terribly :( i am so very sorry...such a shock...

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  34. Oh no. No no no. I'm so very sorry Elenka. Sending you a big hug and lots of courage.

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  35. I am so sorry to hear this, Elenka. I was slow to understand what has happened.

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  36. i just learned about birdman's passing. i am truly sorry! he was a wise, clever man with a great personality that shown through his posts and comments. i will miss his friendship. elenka and family, my deepest condolences.

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  37. I've been waiting for a new post, never dreaming that this was the reason. Elenka, you were indeed a very lucky woman to have had a devoted husband like him. I know you will miss him dearly. With thoughts and heartfelt sympathies, Kathy.

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  38. Elenka, all I can say is that the love Birdman and you shared was long, deep and beautiful. I am among those who learned of Birman's passing with a heavy heart. You have our thoughts during this trying time.

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  39. Oh no! I just saw this as I am traveling and was checking FB. I'm so sorry Elenka. I will miss Birdman's posts and also his comments on my blog. Rest in peace my friend.

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  40. I am so saddened by the news, Elenka. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

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  41. Just joined your blog and had been catching up on past posts when I saw on another that he had passed. Our deepest and sincere thoughts family and friends and especially to Elenka, obviously the love of his life based on the posts I've read, and we know she must be hurting so much. Know that two people you don't even know are sending you warm thoughts and virtual hugs from across the miles.

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  42. I am so very sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

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  43. Deepest condolences on your loss, and OURS.

    Fond Aloha

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  44. This doesn't seem real. Our world has lost a wonderful writer who caused all of us to really think on the topics and memories that flowed from his pen. Deepest condolences.

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  45. Yeah, leave the plants alone. They want you too.
    MB

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  46. I'm so very shocked and saddened. Elenka, I send my heartfelt sympathy. I know yours was one of those true, deep loves.

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  47. Fare thee well, Birdman! Thank you for all of the beautiful pictures and words!

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  48. RIP Birdman! Deepest condolences to your family.

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  49. Goodbye friend. You will be surely missed.

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  50. I am so sorry, I have just learned what happened... Birdman was a great blogger!

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  51. Elenka, my very deepest condolences. Birdman will be missed.

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  52. So sorry Elenka---your loss is tragic. Blessings to you.
    MB

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  53. I am a late comer to this blog by a wonderful writer/photographer known here as Birdman. It is my Mother's porch mentioned in his Sept. 25th post, about taking some of his first pictures of old friends. I am now truly stunned after reading all of the comments above. To all of M's family, I want to send my deepest sympathy from someone from the "old neighborhood".... Judy

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  54. I am so sad to hear the news. He was a man with so many talents and interests.
    His blog was so inspire ring and always done in a very nice way. My condolences from me here in Norway to all his family and friends.

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  55. I'm shocked and so sorry. Condolences to the family. RIP Birdman.

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  56. So very, very sorry to hear this. What a spirit was in Birdman! xxxx

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  57. With sympathy and prayers for the family and friends of Birdman. Truly a loss to the blogging community and beyond. God Bless! cm

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  58. RIP Birdman, You were one of the best influences in my educational career. I will miss seeing your blogs every morning. My heart goes out to his family and friends you will be dearly missed

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  59. The UppEr and LoWeR case font on the banner and the great comments always put a smile on my face. I'll will miss my interaction with Birdman! I'm sure he has as many in-person friends as Internet pals. You could tell by his comments and writing that he was a nice human being!

    Janis
    GDP

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  60. The word is out with the CDP crowd. You're already missed, Birdman.

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  61. So sorry to hear the news - I will miss his always witty comments.

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  62. I am so sorry for your loss. Birdman will be missed.

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  63. Oh Dear Elenka,
    I am stunned, and so so so sorry. Birdman lived with such full joy and love and I'm grateful to have been touched by his life and by his beautiful & interesting blog and by having met him in person. Much love, Rita, up the coast...

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  64. So very sorry about Birdman's passing. He had such a unique and enjoyable writing style. After reading one of his posts, invariably, I felt as long I had been transported back to his childhood with him. We'll miss him in the CDP community.

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  65. Sit tibi terra levis, may the earth rest lightly on you, que la tierra te sea ligera...

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  66. Oh no. I'll miss him so much. His optimism, stories, photos, and joie de vivre. I'm so sorry, Elenka.

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  68. I am so sorry to hear this sad news and for your loss Elenka...
    My deepest condolences to you and all your family.

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  69. I'm so very sad to lose my friend Bird. He and I have been blog friends a long time. He will be greatly missed.

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  70. Dear Elenka, our deep sympathy and prayers for you and your family! Even without meeting him, we bloggers loved Birdman Mark and knew that he was a fine man. He shared so much, so freely. And now his memory will be a blessing.

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  71. I'm so sorry to hear...my sympathy to you Elenka, and your family.

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  72. This is the worst news. Rest in peace, Birdman. Know that you will be greatly missed by all your blogging friends. Elanka, my most sincere condolences go out to you and your family. While I never had a chance to meet either of you, his photos and stories always brought joy to me.

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  73. Very sorry to hear about Birdman passing away. I always enjoyed reading his posts and and also Elenka's comments. He would always take the time for a nice comment on my blog. My regards to Elenka and the rest of the family.

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  74. Sometimes life is just not fair. Birdman will be missed by so many people as he touched so many lives, lives of people he never met except through his blog. My his posts live forever in the world of the Internet. I will follow him forever by rereading his posts.

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  75. Elenka, my deepest condolences. He will certainly be missed. Peace and love you to.you.

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  76. Early on, I used the alias, Marchin O'Neachtain but felt it important that I say a few words here in the hope that it brings some peace to the passing of my brother, Birdman AKA Mark.

    Tribute to a Brother
    October 24th, 2015
    Are there any Catholics out there? Did anyone here attend Parochial school and have nuns as teachers? Well back when Mark was in 6th grade, he was a prankster, witty, and always pushed the envelope. Mark arrived early for class on April 1st, and decided to play an innocent April Fool's joke on the nuns/class. He decided to take the picture of Jesus Christ and turned it upside down. He quickly spied Pope John the 23rd's picture and flipped that around as well.
    He thought that he would get a good laugh from the classmates, nuns, and anyone else nearby, since he thought everyone had a sense of humor. The nuns were not happy and eventually asked the kids who had done such a dastardly deed. After a long period of silence, Mark admitted his wrong and the nuns contacted my dad and well Mark was confined to his room for a week. The Catholics do not have a sense of humor.

    A second story had to do with Mark's ties. He had wide ties, narrow ties, Einstein tie, Mona Lisa tie, and bow ties. He had a tie for every occasion. We were heading to New Jersey to attend a wedding and I stopped at Mark's house with my single bag. I could not move throughout his kitchen, since he had so many bags, suitcases, pillows, blankets, and various hangers. I asked him if he had his ties packed. He said yes! We finally arrived in New Jersey and dressing for the rehearsal dinner, but Mark could not find where he had packed his ties. Finally, he opened a section of his suit case, undid the snaps, and found his ties, after experiencing a lot of stress. Here they are: (I pulled out several hundred ties on a hanger). Mark found his ties. Notice the hanger is bent.

    Mark was at peace with his life. He was at peace with the universe including: Colleagues, former students, blog, sisters, me, blog, friends, and his beautiful wife Ellen and his loving son Justin. It was his time to go, his gig was up. It was similar to when all of the kids are playing basketball at the school yard court or at the ball field, where day after day you play with all ages and admire the older boys because they teach you how to play and compete all summer long. Then all of a sudden, you go to the court/field and the older boys are no longer there, because they have moved on to bigger and better things. That is the loss I am feeling. The younger ones are now the older boys and we must carry the torch for the next younger group.

    Mark was a wonderful brother, one that any/all guys would love to have around. He was my wing man, my personal internet explorer, and my confidante. I will miss the unusual wit/humor and his incredible sense of loyalty, not only towards me, but also his beautiful wife and son. We will miss you but hopefully see you again down the path of life. His final words to Donna and me were, “Thanks guys, this was so much fun, I am glad that I went, thanks for inviting me!” Exit.....Stage Left!

    Sincerely
    Marty Norton
    October 2015

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    1. You and your wing man had much in common.

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    2. Such a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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    3. Marty, I am just reading this now and never knew that Birdman was Mark. I went to St. Joseph's School with your sister Connie. My condolences to all of the Norton family. Evelyn Paolilli McElroy

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    4. Wow, a blast from the past. Thanks for checking in and offering your thoughts and prayers. I remember you and Phil. Are you both still around?

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  77. Marty, yours is a touching tribute. Having married into a family which included a Catholic nun, I'm well aware that our nun with a sense of humor was about the only one. We will miss your brother's daily musings. I am truly sorry for your loss.

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  78. That's it, Marty. What a eulogy should be. Lots of nice little stories. Sorry for your loss. It's getting to the point, where every loss is our loss.

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  79. I was really shocked and saddened to hear of Birdman's passing. I always enjoyed his posts, he had such an interesting outlook on life. I'm glad his family will still have this blog and that a little part of him will live on through his stories.

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  80. Things had been really busy at our house and tonight I got to thinking that I had not seen anything from Birdman and I had a sinking feeling because nobody posted as regularly as he did so I found this news and I am so sorry. I did not know him except through his posts and comments but still it was obvious that he was one of life's really good guys.
    He touched many lives and I am so sorry for your loss.

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  81. My sympathy to Birdman's family -- it was a shock to read about his passing.

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  83. Elenka...Until I read the comments, I had no idea about your loss. So sorry for you and your family. I will miss his wonderful posts.

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  84. It has been a month Mr.Norton. A month since I woke up one morning and didn't see your newest post. I miss seeing your pictures, and picturing you reading your stories out loud. A lot of people miss you Mr.Norton, but I thought I should let you know we are doing fine now, though our heart aches with your absence. It has been a month Mr.Norton, we know you are watching over us, staying with us, leading us along the way. It has been a month Mr.Norton, but I know you are taking pictures and writing, on your new blog up there. It is now past time in heavens backyard.

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  85. I miss you, Birdman...Love to your family, Rita

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  86. Julia,
    Your thoughts are right on target. He IS still writing, and never is without his camera by his side. Just as you stated, It truly is.. Heaven's Backyard and Beyond now. He appreciates your thoughts. He misses you too. He wants you to know he's OK now. He is well and at peace.

    Connie (Mark's sister in Lakeland, Florida)

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  87. Hi Mark's family...I still come back to read...Thinking of you all, love, Rita

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  88. I, too, come back from time to time to read.....also thinking of you all
    MB

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  89. I come back and read some old posts too! I miss the Birdman humour!

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  90. Hey "Mr.Quinney" I was thinking of you today while writing. I found old writing assignments I still have from your class. Everyday I still visit your blog, I am starting from the bottom and working my way up! We all miss you very much. See you back in 2008 tomorrow!

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  91. I just had to see and read this wonderful blog again. I miss Birdman, the way he wrote and the photos he shared. So pleased that the blog is still here....

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  92. As for me, i don't appreciate that .They have to change their opinion about whom to f*ck, cuz awriter.org
    that's rea'lly delirious. Even an essay writer proved my words.

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  93. Just had to check back in. You are missed by so many.

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  95. plants and nature at all are a beautiful thing

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  96. Just checking in to see if IT was real. You are missed!!!
    MB

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  97. I'm doing the same as Gunn above and feel the same. I was hoping to meet Birdman someday when my brother and I might take a return trip to a place we lived as kids. I'll just have to wait until that next journey in life.

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